"I can only judge on the individuals I have met. None of them have ever killed anyone or planned to. "
I don't doubt you for a moment Kate. Even so, people are judged by the company they keep and the beliefs they share. The reign of Muslim terror will only be stopped by members who disagree walking away whatever the cost. If they choose to stay, then they are helping to support their leaders.
Muslims stay, regardless of the atrocities that are carried out, because they love Allah and believe they have the truth. If millions of Muslims disapprove of the violence, then they should publicly say so.